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6 steps to getting back up (after getting knocked down)

September 26, 2016


We all know we are supposed to be able to bounce back, to stay positive and optimistic in the face of a disappointment or setback, to "think our way back." But what if we can't? What do we do when we can't forgive, or let it go, or dust ourselves off and put one foot in front of the other?


I've practically made a career of self-improvement this past year. Reading, listening, meditating and looking for universal clues in every tea leaf, desperate for a message that guarantees it's all going to be okay. 


First, let me tell you that ^ career doesn't pay my phone bill. #truth And some days all of that searching just feels like empty platitudes. One day I'm open to following a feminine path that gracefully unfolds and the next I'm saying it's all crap and embracing my masculine muscle-through-it tactics. Like most things it's this AND that. It's both. It's all. One thing is rarely the solution or the problem. #justnotsimple


Whenever the path is smooth, any method will do. (Familiar with the business adage, "Growth hides all sins"?) It's in the dark times that we have to face what we believe. What got us there. What - or who - grounds us. Both the religious and non-religious hit their knees, others lash out, some get sick, still more retreat. It's stress and fear and we all process differently. 


But what to do to get yourself off the ground?


Here are my six steps to getting back up and at it:


1. Admit it. Face it. Name it. Dig deep and uncover. Get honest. If we keep sweeping our emotional junk under the rug, eventually we trip over the lump we created. {tweet it}


2. Grab your life ring. Listen to music. Dance it out. Walk the dog. Ditch negative talk/people/news. Fill your life with good energy. You cannot be positive surrounded by fear, so change your frequency by getting physical.


3. Reach out. Even virtually. Even on a blog. Sometimes our fears and our problems isolate us and we can't imagine that anyone cares. Turns out, the Internet is a pretty great place for finding coaching and support. Find your tribe.


4. Be grateful. For all the little things. Make a list and keep going until you've included every shoe you own. Most likey one rotten thing is derailing a thousand other amazing things you already have. 


5. Do something for someone. Give. Drummer boy style or Daddy Warbucks style. No matter. Give. Reach out. Offer. It feels so good!


6. Show compassion to yourself. Love your flaws, your strengths and the fact you've made it this far. You can't be compassionate to others without being compassionate to yourself. It takes practice, but it’s worth it!


You may knock me down, but you won't knock me out. {tweet it!}






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